Withdrawal Of Care.

I've been awake for days so am going to try and make this coherent. I am in Connecticut. My boyfriend went into the hospital for hyponatremia and a couple of other issues, was doing well, and then last Tuesday night I got an urgent call that he was crashing and to come over. FYI I have been an internal medicine PA for 18 years. He had developed septic shock and was certainly critical, and possibly not going to live very long. He is certainly not out of the woods but has come off two of the medications to raise his blood pressure and his vital signs are greatly improved. I have been there most of the time and have had excellent communication with his providers. We have been together almost 6 years and reside together. He is estranged from most of his family. Social Work was hounding me for next of kin and I was finally able to get his sister's information, which was when I was told I have no say in any decisions. Connecticut does not recognize common law marriage or anything of that nature.

I had never met his sister but have now seen her twice this week. He has not seen her in the time we have been together. He has not seen his children in many years.Yesterday she came in and stated she had been speaking with his children and asked what the chances were that he would actually leave the hospital. I explained the situation and then had to go put myself in a time out elsewhere before I said something I regretted. She immediately asked the nurse the same thing, in a manner the nurse described as "bizarre". His sister and children have not spoken to the medical team. It actually seemed as though she thought she could turn the vent off and be home for dinner. At this point things are hour to hour and there is no talk of withdrawal of care/comfort measures only. I am a very realistic person but this seems premature.

Medico-legally what is she/his children allowed to do? The children are both out of state. I will certainly speak to his team but as it is a holiday weekend there are not a lot of people around. The nurses stated they believed no one would be allowed to "pull the plug" at this point. Thanks.

Edited to add: 2-3 years ago he fell and sustained a subdural bleed. I was able to get a msg to her about it and let her know he was being transferred to a trauma center. She had no interest in visiting at that time. (He did make a full recovery.)