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What Can I Do About Boyfriend Kicking Me Out Of House I Also Lease?

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I (27F) and ex (41M) have been together for 2 1/2 years. We’ve lived together for a year and two months. We have had issues with his alcoholism, due to that I have chosen to break up with him. Some of these problems include irresponsibility, lack of emotional stability, and incapability to do things on their own entirely. The night that I decided to break up with him, he told me I had to leave; I did try to fight this, but he began to yell at me and shake his fist. So I packed what I could, and left. The next day I I tried to come back, I asked him if it would be a problem if I stayed in the guestroom. The reason I thought this would be OK, is because he told me the night before whenever I was going to leave last minute, he said that I should stay so I left my two pets there, but I left. He again on the second day told me I could not come back and that it would be a problem if I did, also told me that I should not bring anyone else to the house. I stayed at a friends house that night, and went back the following day to officially try to get things organized with my leasing manager, go to the house to get the things that I need for work that I didn’t grab on the first night, as well as my pets. While I did give him a heads up that I was coming, and that he could leave, and that I was bringing my mother. He did not leave or reply. When we got there, he followed us around the house while very intoxicated. He then began a argument about me paying the rest of the duration of the lease due to me. “breaking my lease “. I had explained to him that I had already spoken to the leasing manager, and that is not the case I would be able to sign it off to him if he approved. He then, decided that he also wanted to leave, so then I said I would stay instead. Then, he changed it again to that I needed to leave and started yelling at me to get the F out. shortly, after this, I continued getting my things out of the house, and he called his mom, who came over. We discussed things with his mom with him away, as well as with him there. It was told to me that I need to be gone for the next week, as his parents are going to be on vacation, and this is what he would like. I have been put in a position where I have to choose my safety, or my stability. I do not have an ideal situation for me to be at someone’s place and to continue to work at my job. I know legally he cannot kick me out of the house. but to keep the peace, I have stayed away. Though, I would like for me to stay in the house and him leave. But you cannot have a logical conversation with him. Which is why I haven’t been there. I’m not sure what I can do in this situation. He has not done anything excessive, that would call for an ex parte or something of the sort. Though, I do think there is a potential for that if I force myself into the house and stayed against his wishes. His parents are encouraging his behavior, in the sense of letting it be OK. I am not OK with this situation, and I think it is completely, irrational, to allow an alcoholic grown man, to stay in a house where he can barely function, and kick me out on the curb. I have thought of ways I could potentially push him out, (turning off internet, utilities are in my name) but I am open to ideas. Anything is helpful thank you so much in advance.

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