My Uncle Is Taking Advantage Of My Grandfathers Wealth

my uncle is taking advantage of my grandfathers wealth. location: New Hampshire

My grandfather (90) has severe alzheimer’s and should not be living alone. that being said, there is a lot of tension with his children (my mom, aunt, and uncle) regarding his wellbeing. a few years ago, when his license was taken away (he kept getting lost and the police had to bring him home) my mom and aunt tried to convince my uncle the best course of action was to get him into an assisted living facility. they were all making frequent trips to his house to ensure his safety, and it was getting excessive. he lives in a giant multistory house, by himself, and had multiple trips to the hospital due to injuries. he fell down his stairs, cracked his head open, lost a tooth, and was lying in a puddle of his own blood, and had a heart attack all within a month or two. he’s also had multiple other medical emergencies.

my uncle was adamant that he didn’t want him in assisted living, insisting my grandfather didn’t want to go and he was fulfilling his wishes. my mom pushed back hard but was ultimately override when my uncle because my grandfathers power of attorney and decided he was not going to entertain assisted living.

i’ve recently connected the dots into why my uncle didn’t want him in assisted living, and it’s not because of his moral high ground. my grandfather has a hefty amount of money, money that would be drained in an assisted living facility. my uncles kids (my cousins) attended a boarding school (high school) that costs around 55,000 a year. my uncle has a decent amount of money, but not enough to cover tuition. as the power of attorney, he writes checks on behalf of my grandfather to pay for their schooling. my eldest cousin is now attending college, which is 80,000 per semester. this is also coming out of my grandfathers account. my cousin told me this herself. i should add that my grandfather is too out of it to even comprehend this is happening. my brother and i, also attending college, got no such financial support, not even a penny. my other cousins, not my uncles children, are worse off financially than the rest of the family, and have also not gotten a cent.

this feels incredibly morally wrong to me, and i don’t know what to do. i don’t need the money for school, i should add that. my parents are paying my tuition which i’m extremely grateful for. what bothers me is that my cousins on my aunts side, and my aunt, are struggling financially and have no idea my uncle is using my grandfathers money to further his kids i’ve league tuition. i’ve told this all to my mom, and she is so tired of the family drama she won’t do anything. i also don’t think i can do anything because my uncle is my grandfathers power of attorney, so what he’s doing is in his right. i don’t want to blow up the entire family with this knowledge but i feel complicit in my uncles actions by doing nothing. is there anything i can do?