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My (26m) Girlfriend (25f) Was Sa'd In New York City When She Was A Minor. Can Charges Still Be Pressed?

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TRIGGER WARNING STORY ABOUT SA AND ABUSE

My current girlfriend of a year is so amazing and sweet. Her main mental health issues these days include putting down her own self worth and anxiety around men. This stems from the fact that her first time with a man sexually was a rape when she was a minor. The man was a coworker of hers. He was 26 at the time of the rape and my GF was 16. The man had a two year old daughter when the event took place. Recently she has been brave enough to share all the details with me.

I told her that I was so sorry that happened to her and that she didn't deserve that. The event put her in a very dark place for several years. She had even told her therapist about it at her next session just a week or so later. The therapist was obligated to report it to the police. The police came to my GFs door to file a report with her. But due to embarrassment, shame and not wanting other people to know about it. She told the police that she would rather just forget about the whole thing. I think this was so wrong that no one comforted her and told her that the right thing to do would be get the monster of the streets.

The way she described the assault to me was. Her coworker asked her out for drinks after their work shift(also illegal) with a few other coworkers. She was then given copious amount of alcohol until the point she was nearly blackout drunk. The night got to the point where she wanted to be driven home. But when she got in the car the man started making sexual advances on her. To which she denied and started to feel scared. At one point she tried to open the door to escape but it was locked. She was very drunk. He then physically forced her to go down on him by grabbing her head. At that point she blacked out. She then awoke in her own bed the next day. She asked him what happened last night and he sent her a text saying how he had sex with her.

This description made me feel so terrible and sad that something like that happened to my GF. We discussed and came to the agreement that we would both feel a lot better if the man who did it was punished for this. She knows of at least one other girl who was assaulted by him and didn't report it. We currently live in a different state. It just makes me sick that a predator like that got away with this. Has probably done it several other times and current has a young daughter.

Do we have a legal course of action to still report this? Is it too late? How should we go about it if we can? The phone she received those texts on is still in her possession but is broken and won't turn on. I just really feel like getting justice in this situation will help with some closure in my grilfriends mind and will prevent this from happening to someone else.

Thanks for any information.

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