Just Received A Summons To Court From The Mother Of My Child The Day Before Contacting Cps To Get Them Out Of Her House.

*children.

My (ex) wife and I agreed to separate on January 23rd of this year (separation, we have not yet divorced). Since then, I have records of bank transfers proving I have sent her, as of today, $27,800 which includes covering her personal bills, children’s expenses and her/our mortgage, as well as her pet’s needs. She has continued to ask for more money, threatening me that she will lose the house because I “will not” send more.

I had recently found out she is purchasing medical marijuana illegally with the help of her co-worker who uses his medical marijuana card to purchase it for her. This is happening with the money that I am sending her, while being told she cannot provide a home for my children unless I send her more.

When I moved out, about a week later her mother bought her a THIRD dog (which I firmly said we could not afford to do before I moved out). Not only has this of course already been a new financial blow for her, she is not caring for them at all. I still go to the house on most evenings when she is working to meet my parents who drop the kids off once I’m there after finishing my job. She is not feeding the dogs before she goes to work, saying I have to do it when I am there to take care of my kids, but on top of that, she is also not cleaning up multiple spots of feces and urine all over the back deck, which last time I was there, it was literally surrounding all of our kid’s toys/play area/slide etc.

As of last week I began addressing this to her and firmly letting her know that if she cannot take care of these kids, these animals and continues to make irresponsible decisions with the money I send her, I will have to take the kids. I am in no way threatening this, I am being as clear as I can with her to let her understand that I want her to do better and I want these kids to have us both in their lives equally (or kids are 5, 4 and almost 2). But this is just beyond disgusting and something has to give. She has refused acknowledge any of it, yet continues to ask me for more money. It is damn near scary behavior with how she is treating the situation.

A couple days ago I met with SPCA and animal control to get advice on what to do. I even let her know what I was doing to hopefully get her to understand how serious this is. The next day when I came to the house to watch the kids, the dogs were gone. She is now hiding them at her parent’s house when I am there while still refusing to acknowledge the situation at hand.

I already have a case number to file for a restraining order after she hit me months ago for recording even more questionable behavior (yes, I do take responsibility for not acting sooner and I will never forgive myself for that. I really wanted to believe she would change). I had planned on tomorrow contacting the officer to file the order, as well as try to work with CPS to get the kids out of the house and into mine. My hope was to just pick them up from my parents house and we go from there, depending on the direction and recommend of CPS to ensure it’s handled appropriately.

However, I come home tonight and there is a summons to court on my door from her requesting $3k in spousal support and and additional $1.5k in child support, which coincidentally is still less than I’ve already been voluntarily given her on average every month since the separation.

Any ideas or recommendations, I would truly appreciate it. I have absolutely everything documented, is it possible to go to the court tomorrow to show them what I have regarding all I mentioned above? I do not want my kids living in that environment any longer than they have to be and I purposely moved to a great place/area for them, assuming that eventually, I would have to step up one day.