A Concentration Object To Curb Self Pity.

I'm a somewhat recently divorced middle aged American. I used to meditate daily. My former wife was not really a meditator, so for the ten years I was married to her, my practice was pretty weak ( I did not regularly meditate). Before that, I attended many Goenka retreats, and had used what I learned there to practice meditating on the breath, and bodily sensations.

I guess the truth is that I have never been the best at consistently practicing, and living with someone who did not find value in it made it easy to let it go.

Now that I am trying to develop a daily practice again I have a problem. Every day my mind is focused on self pity, sadness and loss. Meditation does help, but I find my mind turning to play the blame game whenever it gets an idle moment.

I would like it to stop.

Does anyone know what skillfull means I could use to deal with a mind determined to feel sorry for itself?