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I now 18 f have a 22 year old bd (let’s call him Fred) I met him because he was my friends older brother and I had went to stay the night with her and said maybe two words to him. He later added me on instagram somehow and we started talking. Not flirting really just talking. When I had just turned 16 I went to hang out with him for a few days, he 20, and had no intention of sexual acts. I was waiting till marriage and that was very important to me (no man had even seen me unclothed). Mind you only my 2nd time meeting him but I lived an hour away and did not have a license so my only option was to tests the night. We were supposed to sleep on seperate furniture and everything. We were up super late just hanging out so he was on the air mattress with me which I didn’t mind. He asked abt sex 1 time I said no I want to wait, DEFINETLY not today. He continued asking over and over for hours and trying to talk me into it. Now here is why I never reported it. I ended up saying fine after a few hours of him asking. I didn’t feel as though I had another choice and for some reason I felt like if I said yes I had more control over the situation. The next day I bawled my eyes out to him because I felt disgusting and hurt and he went on a whole speech about how he was now my protector and he wasn’t scared to kill “another” person or die. After a few weeks he finally made me his girlfriend and I continued sleeping with him and planned to marry him because I couldn’t see myself sleeping with another person without feeling like a whore. Ended up leaving him because he was addicted to being high and his video game. I tried dating a freshman (he was 15 I was a 16 yo sophomore) got uncomfortable because he wanted to have sex with me and ended up getting back with Fred since he was the only person I felt I could now be with. My 17th comes around and we split up for like a week and I talk to another guy, just texting not hanging out. Me and Fred then get back together after and move in with my dad. He finds out I had talked to another guy. Bawls his eyes out asking me to not leave him. A few nights later he makes me think we are going to have sex, has me on the bed naked and on my knees and walks behind me I didn’t know he was mad or anything because he was acting normal. Then something sharp hit me really hard in the back and he was holding this belt made of fake diamonds that belonged to my little sister. I thought this was some weird kink thing so I asked him not to do it again because I didn’t like it. He then hold me down and half way enters and slaps me hard across the face stating “I bet you like that shit you fucking whore” and walks out of the room. I curled up at the headboard just crying. I had no idea why it happened. He walks into the room a few minutes later acting all sweet and saying “babe what happened what’s wrong” “ why are you crying” “none of that actually happened I don’t remember that” “that must HAVE BEEN MY OTHER PERSONALITY TED” (I don’t remember the name he actually claimed to had taken his body over) come to find out he is like schizophrenic, autistic, adhd, and bipolar according to his mom. Well i hadn’t told anyone about that incident, fast forward 2 weeks I find out I’m pregnant. We move in to a rundown trailer in his moms yard. Dealt with the same situations over and over. (After a while I started hitting him too) he wouldn’t get a job, or a vehicle, or his license. I got him his id but I didn’t really know how to do all the other stuff for him. We split up after a while, I started working again 7 months pregnant but stayed in contact with him bc of the baby. Have the baby, he was at the hospital signed the bc everything, I kept talking to him like that for a while. I took him to an appt w the baby at 2 weeks old, and went to drop him back off at the house he was staying at. I had my son in his seat still on the front porch because I wasn’t taking him in there. Fred had walked inside for something saw that the tv he was using to play video games on (which belonged to somebody else that lived there) was gone. He started screaming at the top of his lungs that he was going to kill everyone busted down the guys whole room, came outside busted down a grill directly behind the baby (who at this point was crying and jumping at his “father” throwing a fit) and slung a chair right in front of the baby. I picked him up and left and told him he would never do something like that around my child again. About a month later I had to go stay the night with him so that he could watch the baby while I went to work (I know now that was stupid but at the time I had no choice) found out I had Covid had to quarantine there. He went outside and got high and came back in and tried handling the baby I told him I was leaving bc I wasn’t gonna argue around the baby. He then laid in top of the baby screaming and crying telling me I wasn’t gonna take his son. I then took my elbows to the back of his head 2x to get him off because he was LAYING ON A 1 MONTH OLD! And he then got in front of the door with my dead phone. Sat on a chair and told me I wasn’t leaving. He grabbed a hidden knife off the tv stand beside him and told me I was “fixing to see what rape really was” I then started screaming hoping somebody would wake up and hear me or something idk. I was still holding the baby at this point. He cornered me and grabbed me by the mouth and slammed my head into the wall. I barely had a hold on the baby anymore, and he was still holding the knife so I acted calm and like it was fine. He chilled out and went to bed. I didn’t try leaving or getting my phone (which he still had on him) because it was the safest option. I waited till SUPER early in the morning and left. I didn’t think to call cops or anything on him because I had no proof of what happened, and I had called them on him before and they said they couldn’t do anything. I now have him blocked after attempting supervised visitation with the baby for abt 3 months (I was told I had to atleast let him see him bc if not I could go to jail) he started drama about it because he couldn’t have him alone, so I blocked him. Am now married with another baby on the way and have nothing to do with Fred at all. My son calls my husband dada and my husband treats him like his own. I am scared of him taking him or getting me in trouble for alienation. I need to know what I can currently report. That last incident happened 9 months ago. And what I can get in trouble for.

Location: Texas

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