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My Fiance Wants To Do A Diy Prenup And I’m Worried That It Might Not Hold Up In Court. What Should I Do?

Location: Cali

My fiance (32M) and I (29F) are getting married next year in Cali and we agreed pretty early on that we'd do a prenup.

Neither of us are crazy rich or anything but we both have some good (above average) jobs and some assets and honestly it just seemed like the smart thing to do.

We decided to start looking into services. He found this service online that makes it super cheap and easy to do a prenup without lawyers. You just fill out a form together and you're done. He thinks it's perfect because we 'trust each other' and it doesn't make sense to waste money on lawyers

I (as a freak who goes into every single detail about everything) started looking into if this is worth it or not. I went into some old cases and ran into this huge case in California with Barry Bonds (the baseball guy) where his wife didn't have her own lawyer when they signed their prenup. They got divorced years later and she tried to throw it out. The California Supreme Court actually kept it valid BUT the whole thing was so controversial that California changed their laws after. Now in California if you waive spousal support and don't have your own lawyer, that part of the prenup just doesn't count.

I found similar cases in MA and NYC where prenups got tossed because one person didn't have representation. I started thinking like if we both just use the same online thing, are we even protected? Like what's the point of doing this if it might not hold up?

When I brought this up to my fiance he got kind of defensive. Said I was overthinking it and that we're not Barry Bonds so it doesn't matter. But like the whole point of a prenup is for IF things go wrong right? I don't think we're going to get divorced but that's literally why people get prenups in the first place.

I don't want him to think I don't trust him but I also don't want us to waste time on something that won't actually work if we actually need it. Is it crazy to insist we both get our own lawyers even though it's a bit more expensive? Am I being paranoid or is he being naive?

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My Fiance Wants To Do A Diy Prenup And I’m Worried That It Might Not Hold Up In Court. What Should I Do?

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