Drug Addicted Mother's Enabler Set To Take Family's Fortune. Please Help.

Location: TX

I dont even know where to start. Roughly 5 years ago, I was injured in an accident. I had external fixators (rods protruding through my skin from the bones in my leg), and could not walk for 3 months. The first month I was almost completely bed ridden. The original plan was to spend a few weeks at my mom's house where she lived with my step-dad of 25 years, he's a great man. After about 3 days I went to take my pain meds and noticed the count was WAY off. I had been given just enough to last me for 2 weeks when taken as prescribed, for 2 narcotic pain medications. There was now not even enough to make it to the end of the 1st week. I confronted my mother about this because she was the only one with access to them other than my step-dad, but I knew it was her. She tried to deny it, blaming me for not remembering how much I took, but eventually after explaining the math, she admitted to taking the drugs herself and BEGGED me not to tell my stepdad. I wish I would have at the time, but I did not, and instead demanded she take me home. I spent the next week and a half in the most excruciating pain I've ever felt in my life. I was sweating bullets 24/7, constantly screaming and spasming from the pain. This was the first time I saw my mother's addiction.

Fast forward about 6 months and her and my stepdad divorced after 25 years of marriage because she had picked up a cocaine habit and also missused fentanyl, hydrocodone, belbuca, and lyrica all prescribed to her for pain, but she did not take them as prescribed. My stepdad tried to cut off her finances, and dole it out as she legitimately needed money, so she couldn't continue to buy, but she went on and claimed that this was financial abuse and divorced him, taking half of about an $8 million estate.

I think you can imagine what happened next, but it's so much worse than that. She spiraled of course, dove into the addiction hard. She bought a $2 million house, cash. A $160,000 Maserati. And cocaine by the ounce, frequently. She typically went through an ounce every ~3 weeks. I tried to stop her, get her into rehabs, throw it away. None of it worked. She always got more. Rehab 4 times, never completed - 100s of thousands wasted there. The last couple times she was in rehab her drug dealer was actually delivering to her to the facility over the fence. Shes warned me this guy is cartel affiliated and that he'd "come after the whole family" if anyone ever went to the police about him. Well I have pictures of his license plate and vehicle and have provided it to police and they have been no help in 3 years. Same guy still supplies her.

She eventually got a young boyfriend (younger than me, her son) who enables her and uses her for her money so he doesnt have to work and gets to travel and do blow all the time. Well all the traveling and cocaine usage eventually caught up to my mom because she came down with pneumonia which she didnt get seen for so it turned septic in her blood and she almost died. She was put into a medically induced coma for 9 days. After awaking, she had to do PT for weeks before she could even stand. During that time, this boyfriend of hers would sneak up to the hospital in the middle of the night and bring her cocaine and nic vapes TO THE ICU. One day a nurse came in and found several vapes hidden in the room, so she confronted my mother who then threw an absolute fit and left the hospital AMA with a fresh tracheostomy hole in her neck.

After returning home, she went right back to using. Not full-blown at first, but it slowly built back up. Her boyfriend continued to drink and use heavily as well. One night, a couple weeks after leaving AMA, while on the back porch with the boyfriend and his cousin, there was some type of drug fueled argument and the boyfriend went out to his car, returning with a firearm that he fired 4 times at my mother and his cousin, thankfully missing. Police came and arrested him. Agg assault w/deadly weapon and Assault on a family member with intent. His mother bailed him out. There was a restraining order filed. He wasnt supposed to contact my mother or come within a certain distance... well I dont know how it happened, but she let him back in and ELOPED WITH THIS GUY - 9 months ago.

She is continuing to use, while he enables her, and I dont see how she can live another 5 years at this rate. He has also convinced her to take me out of her will, she says this is because I uninvited her from my wedding, and won't allow her to meet my daughter, her grandchild, which i think are for obvious and legitimate reasons.

I am my mothers only child, her only other living relative is her brother, and while i have come to realize I absolutely can not stop her from doing what she wants to do, or tell her how to use her money, it makes my skin crawl that this guy who has enabled my mother's downward spiral, taken advantage of her at every turn, and is waiting for her to die - is seemingly going to take everything in the will, and then ride off into the sunset after enabling my mother's destruction without ever being held accountable, neigh being rewarded, for what he's done.

Does anyone have any advice? Because at this point I just dont know what to do anymore. There is so much more to the story, and so many other legal situations she has gotten herself into while using... there is a paper trail of about half a dozen encounters with police - all negative.

Ive tried the mental incompetence/gaurdianship route, and a few lawers ive spoken to in Texas about that have said its nearly impossible because addiction is not regarded as a mental health problem in the state of TX, which is unbelievable.

I know I cant stop her from using, I know I cant get guardianship (but would gladly accept being proven wrong about that).

So what im asking here is - do I have any recourse against this violent enabler before my mother dies? Can I sue her drug dealer in civil court if the police wont/cant do anything without catching him in the literal act of supplying drugs? Can I sue her enabler for pain and suffering or anything else? When she dies, and this kid takes the estate, do I have any recourse then?

I have no idea what to do at this point. Any legal advice, or other ideas, are greatly appreciated.