“i’d Call The Police”: Man Freaks Out Over Wife’s Creepy Question, She Doesn’t Like His Reaction

Kickstarting a healthier lifestyle is never too late, and getting your partner on board makes it that much more motivating. However, when one decides to commit to their health and the other doesn’t, it can create additional obstacles in the relationship. 

This wife was trying to persuade her husband to go on a weight-loss journey together. However, her methods were more than questionable, which majorly freaked him out. This pushed him to share the story on Reddit, asking if his reaction was adequate.

Going on a health journey is much more motivating with a partner by your side

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However, this wife approached it all wrong by offering weight-loss injections to her husband

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Having different views on wellness can lead to intense stress in the partnership

Relationship expert and co-founder of Inner Bonding, Margaret Paul, stresses that among values related to politics and social issues, food should be equally important while dating. However, she notes that it’s not about the specific food choices a person might have, like being vegan or vegetarian, but the bigger question of how generally health-conscious each partner is. 

Even if it’s not something you might worry about at the start of the relationship, having different views on wellness can lead to intense stress in the partnership. In fact, how much your lifestyles misalign may not be noticeable until after you’ve started living together. 

According to a licensed psychotherapist and CEO of Empowered Wellness, Eliza Kingsford, if this issue is not approached carefully with open communication, a big change towards a healthier lifestyle can cause a big disconnect for the pair. Since our relationship with food and bodies is so interconnected with every part of our lives, it’s just a matter of time before it will start affecting the partnership if one gets on the green smoothie train while the other one doesn’t. 

The party that feels forced into a wellness kick might suddenly feel psychologically threatened because they are balanced out of their routine patterns. Kingsford illustrates this by saying, “For example, a husband would almost certainly say that he wants his wife to feel healthy, happy, and more confident.

However, when shifts occur in her life in order to accomplish that, it can make him feel uncomfortable, and he can begin to behave in ways he doesn’t really intend to in order to maintain homeostasis in his life. Even if the homeostasis made his wife feel unhealthy, sad, and uncomfortable, this was still the known, the norm, so it felt safe.”

The partner may even feel insecure and frightened about what the health journey will do to the relationship. They might start thinking that they’ll want something different in a partner as they continue to progress and leave them behind. 

Sometimes, leading by example is enough to get a reluctant partner on board

Sometimes, leading by example is enough to get a reluctant partner on board. Instead of constantly reminding them to join you for a workout class or skip the fast food, try doing that yourself, and they might find the inspiration to follow you along. 

In the midst of big changes, Kingsford notes, “You do not have to make excuses for or apologize for your new lifestyle, ever! But allowing your partner to have feelings of discomfort and working through how you can overcome them together will not only solidify your commitment to your healthy lifestyle but also to your relationship.”

Some ideas that can help gradually transition both partners into a healthier lifestyle are planning healthy dinner dates or getting more active during their outings. Kingsford urges swapping a favorite restaurant for cooking a nutritious meal together. The evening could be spent learning more creative ways to eat healthy and make it fun.

Getting fit also doesn’t have to involve going to the gym. Instead, make an effort to play some volleyball or a game of tennis, or take on the town dancing. Anything that gets you moving will motivate you to do more of it. Having something to look forward to each week, like a special dessert or a cocktail, will help keep you both committed. 

However, the couple doesn’t have to enjoy the same things or physical activities to stay healthy. Kingsford explains, “I have seen many couples have completely different ideas of what health and fitness means for them personally, but they just agree it’s important, so they implement their own individual programs accordingly. This usually works just fine.”

Commenters expressed their shock, saying it’s time for couples therapy