My Husband Had Gone To A Shelter And Is Concealing Our Children From Me

On 05/10/2024 my husband took our 2 children (3 and 7) before I woke up and went to our local domestic violence shelter. I learned this from the local deputies after I opened a missing eprsons case. He has only sent me one text since then, and it was to say that he would contact me yesterday (05/13/2024), which he never did do.

He has sexually abused me for most of the marriage. He has emotionally abused me for our entire marriage. He has denied me medical care over the years, specifically when I was pregnant he denied me access to prenatal care, and I had an unassisted birth at home. He had financially controlled me and isolated me from my family. We have practiced a very conservative/strict religion, but I secretly no longer believe.

1 1/2 years ago I started looking for a way out, but he discovered my attempts, and it became very difficult to keep looking. This last winter, things have deteriorated quickly, and I started making plans to attempt regaining contact with my mother and getting help. On April 3, 2024 I cut my hair into a bob, and he has behaved very angrily and distant since then. He began very erratic, secretive behavior 2 weeks before he took the children. His family is also refusing contact with me currently, and they have my landlord harassing me.

On Friday when I learned he was at a domestic shelter, my mom thought that I should avoid texting him so that it would not appear that I was harassing him, so I sent a text to his mother asking them to pick up the kids comfort stuffies. On Sunday (Mother's Day) I asked if I could hear from the kids, expressed that I was worried about him and the kids, and let him know that I was pursuing marriage counseling. He replied saying that he would contact me Monday, which never happened. I did text him yesterday asking how the kids were doing, anticipating contact since he had said that he would.

My question at this point is if I can safely continue texting him asking about the kid's well-being or asking to see them? I don't want to be accused of harassing him, but he also hasn't asked me to stop contacting him. He simply is ignoring me and saying nothing. I am concerned about this due to the fact that he is at a shelter claiming he felt unsafe, so theoretically he is accusing me of domestic abuse of some form.