Husband Lunged Car At Me, Threatened To Kill Me, But Cops Can’t Do Anything. I Have No Where To Go. What Do I Do Now?

Tl;dr: My husband and I got into an argument bc he was upset I was disappointed that he left me on the dance floor. He then lunged the car at me and threatened to kill me, but completely denied it to the police, causing me to question my whole reality. Now, I have no idea what to do. He refuses to leave the home and I feel unsafe.

Full story: After months of fighting and just being in overall stressful situations, my husband (41m) and I (40f) finally went on a date. Everything was going smoothly until we were on our way out.

As we were leaving, the band started playing and the music was really good. We each had two drinks. I asked if we could just stay at the bar a few more minutes to hear a few songs. He was annoyed, but he did stop. I found us a table, but he refused to sit. So I stood back up and started dancing by him.

A few moments later, he just left angrily. Confused, I followed him asking him what is wrong? As soon as I could hear him past the music, he said that he didn’t want to just stand there. I reminded him I found a table and he refused to sit. He said that we can’t just sit without buying something. (We are both high earners, so buying another beer wouldn’t have been a big deal, although we are in debt). He then said you go dance and I’ll wait in the car. But that felt weird to me so I just said “never mind.”

He could tell I was disappointed, so he said “I don’t see what the big deal is if you stay and dance while I wait for you.” I told him that I came with him and to just forget it. So he starts driving me home.

He started to say how ungrateful I am and any woman would be happy. And I said for what? For being taken out for 2 hours every two months?

Anyway, to make a long story short we both started yelling at each other and I started crying.

So, he pulls into the driveway and I get out of the car. I stand in front of the car and tell him I want him to go to his sister’s house. He starts mocking me saying it’s his house too, all from the car window.

I start walking away through the garage to get inside the house and he lunges the car at me. I turn around and I said “did you try to run me over?” He said yes and started screaming he could kill me. He said it a few times.

I was truly scared, yet shocked at the same time. He has serious anger issues that he struggles to control, but he has never told me he was going to kill me or threaten to run over me.

So, I went to my mom’s room (who lives with us) with my son (21m) and locked us in her room. They and my friend suggested I contact the police and/or contact his sister to get him to leave the house.

Well, I was hesitant to either option bc I knew that would only set him off. I just didn’t want to be screamed at. But I also felt unsafe in my own house and was too scared to leave my pets and family in the house alone with him.

So after a few hours, I decided the safest thing for me to do would be to call the police to basically see what my options are and to help me see things less emotionally. Over the phone, they tell me that this is aggrevated assault and no, this is criminal behavior. They confirmed that it was my call to file a police report, but if I do, he will get charged with a felony.

I really didn’t want to get him in trouble or see him in cuffs, but I just wanted to feel safe and I didn’t want him to think it’s okay to threaten me. So, I asked them to come out just so they can ask him to leave the house.

They come out, asked me to write a statement and then went to speak with him. He acted so surprised. He said I was just mad bc I didn’t get my way. When they asked about the incident, he said that he was just trying to park the car in the garage, but I was in the way yelling at him in front of the car blocking him. When they asked about the threat, he acted surprised and fully denied it. Obviously making me seem over dramatic and crazy.

Needless to say he refused to leave and the police couldn’t make him. Saying if I feel unsafe, I could leave.

What I don’t understand is that if he was “just trying to park the car” why didn’t he just park it? We were already in the driveway. We have another car parked there. Why do it when I’m in front of it. Regardless if I am walking away from it or intentionally blocking it?

The interaction with the police made me question my reality. I honestly regret so much talking to them as it only escalated everything and now I’m living with a ticking time bomb.

So, what do I do now? Is this serious enough to warrant a restraining order? Would they even grant it now? Should I still file charges? How does this all work?

Background info: I don’t have witnesses or evidence and I live in the state of Florida.