74 Year Old Mother Is Being Romanced Scam, Destroyed Her Health And Has Lost Almost Everything Except Her $2million Home (which Is Paid Off)

Title says the most if it but my mother is believing she is dating Sam Heughan. We all live in CA. She has been talking to this scammer for 2 years now and has given $150,000. Despite our best efforts, and proof, she continues to talk to this person. I've read all her emails, without her consent, and discovered the sheer scale of this scammers capabilities. My mom is absolutely head over heals for this person. Despite my sister and I telling her to chose between him and us, she lies and says she has stopped only for us to find out later on that she is still talking and sending money. I've tried everything to get her to stop, cried, yelled, reasoned, group intervention, etc. Nothing works. She has sent money to this person when she has to pay bills, because of this,her credit cards are maxed out and closed. I had conversations with the banks and they ended up closing her accounts due to fraudulent transactions. She even had a bank call her and tell her that she was sending money to a scammer and to not do it again, only for her to do it again 10 minutes later. Telling the scammer that the banks don't know what they're talking about. She's down to her last bank but that will probably be closed out eventually and she'll have no access to secure financial institution.

My mother is also incapable of taking care of herself. Her health is completely destroyed. She drinks about a bottle of Jameson a day and doesn't eat. Her ankles are the size of grapefruits and her legs leak, yes leak, fluid all over the floor. I just found out from our housemaid that she defactes and pees herself regularly and refuses to wear a diaper because it's humiliating, but doesn't get that having other people clean up after you is worse. Despite her going to the doctor She always reports that she has a clean bill of health. We even called the doctor to inspect her more but my mother never divulges information and keeps it a secret. And obviously the doctor can't tell us because of the privacy laws. She also refuses to go into a home or get care. Even if we found someone, we couldn't afford it.

A few months ago I noticed on her security cameras that there was no movement inside the house and she wasn't picking up her phone. I had one of her friends come by to check on her only to find her on the floor unable to get up. Her friend called 911 and had the fire department break into the house in order to get her back up. She had the terrible shakes because of her withdrawal from alcohol. They wanted to take her to the hospital but she refused and signed the waiver saying she didn't want to go. Instantly went to the kitchen to get her "medicine" She has to use a walker because she cannot walk on her own strength.

I just found out today that she is actively looking for a mortgage on her home to access the $2 million dollars that it's valued at. It is completely paid off. I discovered that she sent over the mortgage information to the scammer which means that they are talking on WhatsApp and I am worried that this person will continue to take advantage of her.

Honestly I can go on and on about all the issues but she is not well physically, emotionally, financially,etc.

Everyone is begging me to do something to help her. I did go to an attorney to inquire about a conservatorship for her since she refuses to get help or any assistance. They told me it was going to cost me $80,000 minimum in at least 1 to 2 years battle which she will battle. Unfortunately I don't have that type of money and we can't wait 2 years otherwise it will be too late.

I'm just looking for any and all options possible. Ideally I would just like to slap a paper on her saying that she is no longer in control of the family estate, which is in a family trust, which everything is under. In all honesty, my father and myself both worked very hard to build up the family estate. When my father passed away I was in control of all the businesses and made a lot of money for the family, only to be taken advantage of by my mother and to have her ruin everything. So part of me wants to take control of what's left of it because that's what my father worked hard for and what I worked hard for.

Thank you all in advance for the advice.